Here is my question.
So what do you think? For myself, the only thing I think will change or has changed is my self-confidence. I feel better in things, I can wear things that are more flattering than I could a year ago. I even venture out in jeans instead of yoga pants,lol.
Today was my big Christmas party with the green dress. It was so fun to dress up and look pretty because 1. I never do this 2. I wear jogging pants to work, no make up and running shoes 3. I love to look girly (when I'm at a good weight). It was an ok time. We sat with some long time friends (friends who were in our wedding party), but its not the same. The wife has lost...oh probably 140lbs in the last year. She looks fantastic. I believe, she had bariatric surgery or something like it as neither herself or husband will say how she lost the weight so fast (she's battled weight since I've known her in highschool) and she's had surgery on the loose skin because there is none there. So why was it an ok time? Well I always thought she was a nice person, but now she seems so fake to me. Constantly on her cell text messaging people, having a certain look on her face while talking, talking but not really talking, listening but not really caring. It all seemed fake to me.
We went to their house for dinner about 2 months ago, after not getting together for 1 year. We were only there for 2 hrs and the WHOLE time she was texting people at the dinner table! Who does that! Was I angry? yes...sure, its ignorant. But than she did it again at this gala tonight, so perhaps this is normal behaviour for them. Regardless, its rude...yes? It just made me feel totally unimportant to her and I felt like an idiot trying to talk.
I feel that she's lost this weight and definitely has more self-confidence and is getting noticed. Like I said she looks fantastic, she was always beautiful though. And she knows she looks great. Am I jealous? I don't really think so. Anyhow, she is getting noticed by other men, she hangs out with other ladies in similar situations. All have lost 100lbs or so, all go out partying a few times a week, (but really only once a month according to husband). Some are married, some aren't. She is definitely different...so I wonder does losing that much weight change you as a person? In a negative way?
I'm thinking it may just change some people and not all. Its hard because I miss the wholesome person I once knew. I'm extremely happy for her, who wouldn't be, but I just don't care for the personality that came out with her new body. We'll see them again (longtime friends, husband grew up with the family) but I just have to go with the flow and try not to show that it bothers me with how fake she has become.
3 comments:
Interesting post! Yes, dramatic weight loss can very much change a person. I've noticed it myself with my own weight loss (have gained and lost after babies) I suppose it's the increased self confidence... But that's no excuse to become a text-a-holic moron! I'm sure she's lost more than one friend since she's lost the weight. And she may have a bit of an insecure "chip" on her shoulder b/c the weight loss was through a medical procedure and not good old fashion diet and hard work...?!
Ok, I'll agree with Nikosmommy about the chip on her shoulder about the bariatric surgery. Like seriously, no one will notice? Memo to Star Jones: WE KNOW.
But I absolutely think that losing a LOT of weight can change your personality. My thoughts on it are that when you're fat, you have to use your personality as a shield, or a draw, because you can't use your body. And suddenly not having to do that, I think it almost causes a weight-personality crisis!
But the texting, that's just bitchy.
Texting while you have dinner guests? That's pretty rude.
I was trying to think of people I've known who have lost a lot of weight to recall if they have changed. They all have-some in good ways, some in not so good ways. My husband's sister lost 100 pounds years ago. It gave her a lot of confidence to do things that she never did before-she met her husband, finished her college degree, etc.. Her change was all positive as far as I can see. Sadly,she gained the weight and I'm seeing some of that former insecure woman coming out.
I recently found out that a good friend of mine used to be heavy. She had never mentioned it before. The strange thing is that she is very critical of people who are overweight.
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